Rule 56 — Respect Privacy

So, your partner is keeping things from you? Well, that’s their prerogative. Are you sure you have been 100% honest with them? Come on, we all have some matters we rather keep close to our hearts.

Being in a relationship does not give you the right to poke your nose into every part of your partner’s affairs. Your partner has every right to privacy. And you should not be giving them a hard time just because they want some.

Respecting of privacy can in fact strengthen a relationship. Try it.

Reflection: Just because they love you, it does not mean they have to abandon every last shred of personal identity.

Rule 57 — Treat Your Partner Better Than Your Best Friend

Why are you with your partner? Because you love him or her, isn’t it?

If a buddy accidentally ruined your favourite DVD, what are you likely to do? Laugh it off, maybe? What if it was your partner who damaged it? Will you react the same, or become a yelling machine?

If you love them, treat them well. Period.

Reflection: This is about respecting your partner and treating them kindly.

Rule 58 — Don’t Be Offended If They Want Some Space

Most of us are social creatures, but we still like some space at times. So when your partner requests that space, don’t go ballistic and think that he or she does not want to spend time with you. This is not about you. It is about them.

Some just need a little me time to do something they enjoy. It might be once a week or once a month. Whatever it is, give them that space.

However, if it is happening all too often, you might wish to talk about it directly with him or her — instead of starting to suspect. Remember: trust.

Reflection: Some people need space, and if you deny them, they will start to feel trapped.

Rule 59 — Men Like Flowers Too

We give gifts to our partner during occasions such as birthdays, Christmas, Valentine’s Day. But how about giving them little gifts just because you want to? No reason, no occasion?

When was the last time you gave your partner a gift purely because you wanted him or her to feel good?

It need not be expensive. Just a little something to show them you were thinking of them.

P.S. It is ok to give your man flowers — as long as not those huge bouquet.

Reflection: When did you last give your partner a present?

Rule 60 — Keep Your Finances Separate

Most couples would have a joint account. There is nothing wrong with that — in fact it is recommended, since this account can be the core one to pay for household expenses, kids expenses, maybe holiday trips.

This Rule is about maintaining a separate account, after you have contributed your share to the joint account.

This personal account is for your own spending — monthly shopping, favourite hobby. With it, you really do not have to worry if your partner blew his or her own money on things you do not quite agree on.

We have all heard how money can break an otherwise fantastic relationship. So why give money that chance.

Reflection: If your partner wants to blow all their savings on something you consider frippery, that is their business.